Tuesday, July 05, 2005


I wrote this yesterday as a comment, in response to the responses I got for the last post, but don't think they've been seen, so here they are:

OK, for starters, I don't usually respond to comments because comments are meant to be just that, comments, and I don't think they warrant full-fledged conversations. Secondly most are just points of view and rhetorical really, not requiring answers. But this time is different, and since I did ask for thoughts and have received some rather interesting ones, I do want to take this post a step further.
So, to Anonymous: your 'off-beat take' is not far-fetched but is I think a bit simplistic. What you are saying could be one of the reasons but not the only reason. Having lived in both cities, I do agree that daily life in Mumbai is a bit of a struggle even for the well-heeled but let me tell you they don't think of it that way one bit. If they did, they would not swear by the city and continue to live here and love it. Tiredness, at one level, is a state of mind. And I think outsiders like me face it more. They go through the same grind and yet they are out partying, eating out much more than any other city. In Delhi, the roads are cleaner but public transport is a pain. So unless you have your own car it's quite a struggle there too. Cabs are out to rook you, touts are omnipresent, setting up home, calling to set up a gas connection, getting a phone line, these are all nightmarish experiences in Delhi, but living in Mumbai is far easier and it is a relatively less corrupt city as well. And safer. Which is why I feel it draws many more single people to it, and people who have higher demands from life, higher aspirations and people who are not ready to compromise. They will brave the rain, the roads, but they will not compromise when it comes to their life. They guard their weekends zealously; Mumbaikars are more loathe to work on weekends that Delhiites. They don't even want to show you their house for renting on a weekend! The lines between colleagues and friends blur in Delhi much faster; in Mumbai people would rather mix with friends and let colleagues stay just that; plus they'd rather not take the pain of entertaining at home which allows someone a peek into your life and is therefore a warmer experience, instead they'll meet at a common place. So in some sense, yes all of this contributes to the radar, the scanner being on. In Delhi it's just not a nice vibe, it's a very 'I want to get into your pants vibe' (maybe the jaat heartlands surrounding Delhi lend their mentality to the capital as well), here it's more like 'let's get to know each other' vibe. Of course the ulterior motive in both cases may or may not be the same.
And hey Conman: Nice comment, well put. May your search yield results soon!


Anonymous motivewatcher said...

too many jaat-heads in delhi, am sure, all slobbering all the time and panting like hungry puppies. but at least they use secret ploys to test the good sentiments of people, the best of human feelings in the heart, not the worst

07 July, 2005  

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